Every woman dreams of a happy family: a loving husband, full prosperity in the house, comfortable living conditions, obedient children, pleasant household chores in caring for loved ones. However, creating such an idyll these days is not an easy task. Especially the first point: husband. Not every man, unlike women, strives and hurries to start a family even with the woman he loves. What is holding them back from this important step? Why don't men want to get married?
Reasons why men refuse to marry
These days, if a guy is dating a girl and they spend a lot of time together, it doesn't mean anything. Modern morals and attitudes towards marriage are much freer than they once were, just a couple of generations ago. Then, if the guy had serious intentions, the girl would definitely introduce him to her parents, and soon after that the matter invariably ended in a wedding.
And now civil marriages are in vogue, when a man can live peacefully with his chosen one, enjoy all the delights of home comfort, he can even perform some of her husband's household duties, but at the same time he stubbornly refuses to formalize these relations. Women are rarely satisfied with this situation, they want stability and guarantees for the future.
What are the reasons for this state of affairs? And what if a man does not want to marry?
Let's look at some of the most common explanations.
Financial insolvency
Men are well aware that the creation of a family entails the need to support and provide it with everything necessary. Not every bachelor today is ready to voluntarily agree to give his (often more than modest) earnings at the disposal of even the woman he loves. He is well aware that then he will have to work twice, or even three times more.
The desire to be free
Civil marriage is a very convenient loophole for those men who are afraid of losing their freedom. An official marriage imposes certain obligations on him, which make him feel not very comfortable. A free relationship does not oblige you to anything. They didn’t agree on characters, family life didn’t work out - they fled, and everything was short-lived!
parental ban
Another serious obstacle to official marriage can be the disagreement of the parents of a potential groom. After getting married, the guy will have to bring his legal wife to his house. This prospect does not always suit many parents of the host country, but they also do not have the opportunity to provide a young family with separate housing.
Sometimes they just don’t like the chosen one of their son, and then they begin to look for all sorts of excuses in his favor: they say, he is still young for marriage, he hasn’t worked up yet, let him first get a good education, start earning himself, etc. There are also those who are haunted by the “housing problem”, so they are ready to see a prudent “girl” in any potential bride of their son with selfish goals to cunningly take over his “living space”.
Fear of responsibility
Of course, the creation of a family imposes a great responsibility on a man. By marrying, he will have to provide not only his basic needs, but also his wife and children, and perhaps even new relatives. And this can turn out to be an unbearable burden, so this prospect frightens many.
Fear of losing an opportunity
Living in a civil marriage, a man feels relatively free. After all, he always has a choice: to leave or stay. And the stamp in the passport is a very restrictive circumstance, legal liability and all sorts of other unpleasant consequences that it entails if suddenly family relations do not work out as we would like.
Past negative experience
If a man has already had an unsuccessful experience of family life in an official marriage, he is unlikely to want to go through it again. On the contrary, he will behave very carefully and look closely for a long time before deciding to take such a serious step with another woman.
Disappointment in a girl
Sometimes there are such indecisive guys who just don’t dare to tell their girlfriend that they don’t like her. Yes, there was a love, it was interesting to spend time together, but creating a family with her and having children together is not at all in his plans. However, he is afraid to hurt the girl if he proposes to leave her, so he still continues to meet with her, but does not even think about any marriage.
Fear of making an offer
There are also specimens from the “timid ten” among men who are simply afraid to propose for fear of being rejected. Such a man will look after his chosen one for a long time and beautifully, in every possible way show and prove to her his love and devotion, instead of simply voicing his desire and willingness to marry her.
Some men succumb to the romance of premarital relationships, but the upcoming family life scares them wildly. It seems to them that monotonous everyday life under one roof and many small everyday problems can destroy even the most beautiful love. They have already seen enough of such a sad experience in the life of other young married couples among their friends or acquaintances. As a result, they will by all means evade even talking about marriage, not to mention real actions in this direction.
Ordinary greed
It is difficult to persuade many wealthy men to marry. Many of them think that women seek to marry them only in pursuit of their money and a secure life. They are very suspicious and are very distrustful of women, especially when they start talking with them about family life together.
Perhaps this is the whole list of the main reasons why men do not want to get married. There are, of course, others, more individual, but they are less common than those that we have already listed.
Now that we have already examined the attitude towards family and marriage from the position of men, let's look at the same situation from the other side. But what is a girl to do when she is faced with the stubborn refusal of a young man to marry her?
What should a girl do if a guy doesn't want to get married?
So, if a guy doesn't want to get married, how should a girl be in such a situation? Let's go through the same list of reasons that men use as their excuses, but from the point of view of girls and women.
Financial insolvency
The desire of a young guy to first gain a foothold in life, start earning a stable income and only then start a family, in principle, is reasonable and commendable. This once again speaks of the seriousness of his intentions to ensure his beloved life in abundance. However, the implementation of such a plan can take a long time.
And if a girl likes such a guy, but she does not intend to wait too long, her task is to convince him that they can become wealthy by working on it together. Let not immediately, but gradually, but starting right now. After all, there are still parents on both sides who can also help young people at first. In addition, the presence of a family will become an additional incentive for the young husband to accelerate the achievement of this goal. And a loving wife will become his moral support and inspiration for success in everything.
The desire to be free
If a guy doesn’t want to get married and motivates it with a desire to first just live together in order to get to know each other better in different everyday situations, then the girl should take a closer look at him. What really drives him: the desire to consciously accept, in the end, the decision to create a full-fledged family with her, or simply an unwillingness to part with his freedom? Otherwise, she runs the risk of being in a very unenviable position: he will live with her just like that for his own pleasure in care and comfort until he gets tired of her, and then look for wind in the field.
There is, of course, nothing wrong with civil marriage itself. This is a good way to test the relationship, but you should not delay it either. In this case, the girl should make it clear to her boyfriend that this is just a “simulator”, and that she has exactly the same freedom of choice (to stay with him or go to another) as he does. So, if he thinks for too long, then she can look for herself and someone more determined.
parental ban
If the guy himself doesn’t seem to mind getting married, but there are objections from his parents, think a hundred times, girls, do you need such a husband. What kind of man is this, after all, who is not able to make an independent decision and insist on it? If he is so weak-willed and so subject to the influence of his mother (or father), then he will constantly rush about in family life, whom should he listen to more: them or his wife? Do you need such a "mama's boy" as a husband? After all, even if he decides to marry you in defiance of his parents' ban, just imagine what kind of relationship you will then have with your mother-in-law and father-in-law!
Girls, do not succumb to the persuasion of such guys to “wait a little more”, do not waste your precious time on them, but look for yourself better than someone more independent of the opinions of others.
Fear of responsibility
If the reason for the guy's refusal to marry is that he is afraid to take responsibility, then the girl should be ready to take it upon herself. And what will it be like for you later as the head of the family? Indeed, in this case, you yourself will have to solve all family problems and difficulties, without relying on a strong male shoulder. No, of course, if you are not looking for easy ways, and want to be strong and rule in your family, then such a husband is just right for you!
Fear of losing an opportunity
If a man takes too long to choose whom to marry, and is in no hurry to invite you to the registry office, because he is not sure that you are the one, the only one, give him the opportunity to choose further! You don’t want to get into a situation where he still meets her, the same one, but after your wedding? So he is not your only one.
Past negative experience
If you have laid eyes on a man who was already married before meeting you, then be prepared that he is afraid of repeating the sad experience of family life he has already gone through once. In this case, do not rush things. Give him the opportunity to forget his former wife and make sure that with you everything can be completely different for him. Be patient and delicate, try under no circumstances to remind him of his first marriage, but on the contrary, prove with your whole attitude that family life can be without quarrels and mutual insults, in complete understanding and happiness.
Disappointment in a girl
If a guy does not want to marry, simply because he does not like the girl, do not hold him back and do not try to marry him to yourself at all costs. As they say, you will not be forced to be nice, and marriage without love is sheer torture. And no “endure, fall in love” will not help here. Wish him happiness with another girl and go in search of your real betrothed with a light heart.
Fear of making an offer
If a guy has been courting you for a long time and beautifully, shows tenderness, care, attention and does not skimp on gifts, but for some reason does not offer you to marry him, do not worry. He most likely sincerely loves you and is ready to marry, but he is simply afraid of rejection on your part. So help him cope with his natural timidity: let him know that you agree. Even tell him about it openly. Otherwise, your expectation, when he decides to do it himself, may be delayed.
Fear that marriage will ruin everything
It happens that a guy does not want to marry even a girl he loves very much, simply because he is afraid that after that all the charm of relations with her will be hopelessly killed in battles with banal family problems. And it can be understood, because such stories, alas, are not uncommon. But if you are determined and still want to marry this complete romantic, convince him that this does not have to happen to you at all! There are examples of truly happy couples who live in love and harmony until old age. Assure him that you, for your part, are ready to do everything necessary to continue your beautiful fairy tale together after the wedding.
Ordinary greed
In the case when a man stubbornly avoids marriage out of unwillingness to spend money on unnecessary expenses, leave him to continue to shake over his well-being in splendid isolation. Think about whether such a “provided” life will give you pleasure if you are required to report every day for every hundred spent? If a husband constantly saves on you and your children, refusing you everything beyond the “allowed” necessary, what is the point of marrying him at all? Look for someone more generous, who will not skimp on bringing you and the children extra joy.
Whatever the reason why a man does not want to get married, always remember about yourself and that you deserve the best! Do not force a man to marry if he himself does not want it and (even after all your explanations and persuasion) does not understand what kind of happiness he is giving up. Perhaps he is simply not worthy of you, which means that this is NOT YOUR man. Do not get hung up on someone who seems like a suitable match for you, but hesitates or doubts for too long, but look for someone with whom you will be truly comfortable and reliable, who will love, appreciate and respect you without any additional conditions.
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A white wedding dress, a veil, Mendelssohn's waltz, a wedding procession, a honeymoon... Any girl dreams of this, but, unfortunately, the realities of life are completely different. Some manage to get married and divorce several times, some have no end to fans who offer their hand and heart, but everything seems to be fine with you and the relationship has been warm, lasting for several years, you live in perfect harmony, and the guy does not want to marry.
Let's not pretend, this situation is familiar to many girls. And here we begin to engage in self-discipline: not a beautiful, fat, bad housewife, too serious or too windy, stupid, does not like, but we come up with a lot of things for ourselves. We exhaust ourselves with diets to match his ideal, visit beauty salons, learn to cook, and generally change the stereotypes of our thinking, trying to “adjust to him” in order to hear the cherished phrase: “Marry me.” But no matter what we do, the situation is the same as in that proverb: “But things are still there.” And we are trying to find the answer to the question that worries us: "Why does a man not want to get married."
Why don't guys want to get married?
Dear girls, girls, women and ladies, let's try to dive deeper into the problem. Why, no matter what we do, no matter how we change ourselves, our efforts do not bring the desired result, and he still does not want to get married? Perhaps the root of evil is not at all in this. Surely the root cause in the psychology of the men themselves.
Let's see what is hidden behind such a simple, and at the same time complex word "marriage". First of all, it is “marriage”, and marriage, as we all know, is a legal act, a voluntary union of a man and a woman, which consolidates the relationship of a couple, is aimed at creating a family and gives rise to mutual rights and obligations. That is, in simple words, it is a responsibility to each other, both moral and material. And many of them, no matter how trite it may sound, are afraid of financial responsibility and the loss of their own freedom. But are these all factors? Of course not, then everything would be very clear and simple. There are a number of reasons why a guy does not want to get married:
- he simply, for reasons known only to him, does not believe that he can start a family with this particular woman. For example, he does not feel emotional warmth;
- fear of restrictions and life;
- unsuccessful previous marriage;
- loss of personal space.
In order for a man to decide to marry, there must be a very good reason. Marriage for them is a voluntary renunciation of the diversity of female attention. So, he must be aware that this particular woman is his chosen one, and she is the best.
What are they really looking for?
- sexual satisfaction;
- pleasant joint pastime (common interests and hobbies, communication with friends, etc.);
- to be admired and supported in everything;
- care and warmth.
What to do if a man does not want to marry?
The most important thing is not to get hung up on him, switch your attention from him to yourself, there should not be “many” of you. Let go of the bulldog's stranglehold and give him some freedom and personal space. A man who is constantly under a cap does not want to get married, thinking about what will happen after the wedding. This turn of events cuts all his good intentions in the bud. Attention, heat should be in moderation, not too much and not too little. You need to look at your attitude from the outside and find that golden mean that would suit both.
Not the worst option is to sit down at a round negotiating table and find out why he does not want to get married, and also honestly, gently and sincerely explain to him that it hurts you to realize the fact of his frivolous attitude towards you, and this gives reason to doubt his sincerity feelings. It is necessary to gently make it clear that you love him very much, are ready to legitimize the relationship, and if he is not ready, then it is excruciatingly painful for you to maintain such a relationship. The main thing is to convey your unbearable pain from the current situation. After all, living with you for a long time, he is used to a certain way of life, everything suits him, he is comfortable and he does not think for a second that something may not suit you. It is important that he is well. They are mostly selfish.
So, we went over the key points why a man does not want to get married. Each of us will be able to look at our situation from the outside, evaluate our mistakes, see our merits, rethink the situation and attitude towards it, understand what we need. And believe me, if this is your little man, he will see and hear your pain, and if not, alas, nothing should keep you around.
Men are silent creatures by nature (at least they position themselves that way). They do not like to indulge in long lengthy explanations. They almost never write articles that would reveal to us the veil of secrets of their mysterious soul. Therefore, most often we have to reach everything ourselves, guided by the same female logic. It saves only that in their behavior men are extremely simple. Like hamsters.
So this is the thoughtful conclusion I came to in the course of my personal practice and observing the lives of my girlfriends. Only we ourselves are to blame for the fact that men do not want to marry us. Do you know how we discourage them from legal marriage? We make it so that they live too well outside of it! 
Let's look at the most standard scheme for the development of any relationship. A man and a woman get to know each other. The bouquet and candy period begins, which lasts a maximum of six months. Usually at this stage, both move away from their friends, give up hobbies, because they are too absorbed in each other. Gradually the euphoria dissipates. Ordinary quarrels begin, which quickly fade away. A man and a woman are slowly returning to their interests. They make mutual friends. Some more time passes - let's say a year - and they begin to think that it would be nice to continue living together. And they come to a common living space ... This is where the ambush begins.
Of course, this scheme is very conditional, and options are possible in it. But in general, everything seems to be true, agree. And it seems reasonable and right to try to live together in order to understand how compatible you are in everyday life. Any sane person will say that even shared weekends and vacations for two is a completely different matter. So what's wrong here?
I remember one comic well. A man and a woman are sitting in a restaurant, they have a date. And all sorts of pictures flash through her head: she sees children, a house by the sea, a big car, a dog, a wedding, etc. Dozens of slides change at breakneck speed. And the man has only one thought that pulsates in his head throughout their meeting: “Sex. Sex. Sex".
All! And now the question is: what prevents them from receiving all of the above in a civil marriage?
Civil marriage is a ploy invented by men in order to exercise their rights and safely avoid duties. Well, tell me: why would a man change something in this situation? And the saddest thing is that we ourselves, on a silver platter, bring them all these benefits, without demanding anything in return.
Once I discussed with my girlfriend - I must say, a girl who is very independent and distinguished by her breadth of views on the sexual issue - the relationship with her boyfriend. They met for about 4 years - they met. I asked if they were planning to move in. To which she categorically replied: “No! I'm not going to radically change my life just to cook in other people's pots and clean up in someone else's apartment. Unless you're married." At the time, I thought it was shocking. Now I understand that perhaps there is a large share of common sense in this.
At the same time, I consider civil marriage a good topic and do not reject it at all. But how to do so, so as not to become his hostage? There should be only 2 ways out of it: either you quarrel and run away, realizing that you are not made for each other, or you will safely go to the registry office. With the first option, everything is very clear - no, and there is no trial. But the second one is more difficult. After all, each of us wants to be presented with a diamond ring under the most romantic circumstances with the words: “Make me the happiest person in the world - become my wife!”. Just like they show in the movies! It is somehow unworthy to squeeze the throat of a loved one with an iron grip and hiss in his face: “Marry me, marry me immediately!” - this does not correspond to our concept of romance.
However, it will have to. Not so radical, of course, but you can’t do without dot placement over e.
To begin with, if you are just going to live together, it is better to immediately explain to your loved one that you are not ready to drag out this stage of the relationship. Agree on how much time you both set aside for this demo marriage. Only this period should be reasonable. If a man claims that he needs at least 10 years to realize that he has found his only and beloved woman, run!
If you think that the pause has dragged on, it’s better not to suffer every day from a nervous itch and not be tormented by the question “Why doesn’t he marry me?”, But honestly ask him. Of course, everything in this life is individual, but for me personally, there is nothing worse than uncertainty.
So, you choose a moment when both of you are in no hurry, healthy, enjoying your vacation, in short, as close as possible to the family idyll, and ask the same sacramental question: will we ever get married? You can formulate it as you like, but the main thing is that he must understand that you are serious, and you won’t be able to get away from the answer. And then watch his reaction.
Right answers:
- Great idea! How about September? We'll just have time to save up for the wedding.
- I didn't know it was important to you. But if so, let's get married. How do you see this event?
- In November, I have a thesis defense / quarterly planning / closing mortgage payments. Let's get back to that question, OK? (if new obstacles are looming in November, it’s already worth considering).
Wrong answers:
- Honey, you make me happy every day! We are already married! Who needs these conventions?
- Here's another! I'm not going to spend crazy money, meet your relatives from Tyumen and participate in idiotic contests just because of your quirks!
Who the hell needs us?
Believe me: if a man loves, he marries. If he doesn't get married, you are just a waiting room for him, not a destination. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Listen to your heart and don't let yourself get lost in your own illusions.
Each of us among our friends and relatives has couples who have been dating for quite a long time, but are in no hurry to get married. From the outside, it seems to us that they are happy, in love, and even start talking about a possible pregnancy. But they don't talk about marriage. The female half of the couple, of course, dreams of wearing a white dress and saying the cherished “Yes” at the altar, and the male half runs away from this conversation whenever his beloved finishes off with hints. Why don't men want to get married? What is the reason for such infantilism and how to deal with it? Let's figure it out.
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Reasons why a man does not propose to a woman i
Women's feminism. The most global reason why men do not rush to take their beloved to the registry office is the mythical, far-fetched by the women themselves, independence. A modern phenomenon called feminism has destroyed not a single couple. In their desire to become one step with men, women with their own hands destroy and lead families to divorce. They blur the lines between the sexes, making men effeminate and women masculine and powerful. Many girls forgot that they belong to the weaker sex, they stopped keeping the family hearth, preferring a successful career to it.
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They refuse to have children, citing the fact that they will spoil the figure and lose a lucrative job. In the end, women stopped relying on their partners, they tend to solve their problems on their own. A man who was inspired by television from childhood that a woman is a separate independent unit, capable of achieving everything on her own, simply does not see the need to legitimize his relationship with a stamp in his passport. After all, marriage is a union of people, female and male. If the family consists of two separate units with "eggs", nothing good will come of it.
Bad experiences for parents. If the chosen one of a woman grew up in an incomplete family, most likely he will not be in a hurry to create his own. First, he had before his eyes the sad experience of the relationship between his parents. Constant screams, scandals, division of property and court hearings are not the brightest prospect for creating a strong family. Secondly, such a man is too attached to his mother.
He is infantile, and unable to make mature decisions. But do not think that all men who grew up without a father are not able to take a woman to the registry office. Much depends on his mother. If the hypothetical mother-in-law managed to arrange her personal life and become happy after the divorce, it is highly likely that her son is also positively disposed towards family life.
A man's desire to be independent. Many guys think that when they get married, they will immediately lose their freedom and independence. Such men are even afraid of the word "wedding". They love their chosen one, perhaps even remain faithful to her, but do not imagine themselves as husband and father. To some extent, women themselves provoked their partners to such fears. The weaker sex strives to gain total control over the thoughts and actions of their man. Constant phone calls, surveillance, phone viewing - all this influenced the desire of the guys to stay single as long as possible.
No love. A couple that does not marry after 3 years of relationship is likely to break up. Everyone knows that love lives for 3 years, then comes a period of undulating passion. That is, partners can completely cool off for each other for a while, and after a month or two, wild passion flares up again between them. When people are married, when they value relationships, they do not need to run to court after every quarrel and terminate the legal union. Another thing is when a couple is just dating or cohabiting. After three years, when the fire in the relationship temporarily goes out, love passes, they easily decide to leave without marrying.
How to guide a man on the right path 2
Of course, every woman wants to become the legal wife of her beloved man. Some girls go to extremely rash acts. Someone blackmails by limiting sexual intimacy, someone goes to fortune-tellers for a portion of a love potion. There are those who do not disdain the most sacred - they come up with a non-existent pregnancy. All these methods are initially a failed version of the family. A man will never be happy himself and will not be able to make his beloved happy if he was forced to make a decision to marry.
There are more loyal and pleasant ways to persuade a man to marry:
- Show care. Ask about the well-being of a loved one, take an interest in affairs at work. Surround him with love and affection. In other words, show your most feminine features. The only limitation is don't overdo it. Remember that a man can be "fall in love"!
- Respect personal space. There is no need to spend all your free time together. Let each other rest. It's okay if your fiancé spends the weekend with friends.
- Don't control the man. No need to call him every hour. It is enough to call in the morning - in order to find out how he got to work. And in the evening - to wish good night.
- Less jealousy and checks. Men can't stand jealous women. Yes, they love their girlfriend, but they don't see her as their wife. No one wants to listen to jealous tantrums all day long. Do not, under any circumstances, check his phone. If a woman allows herself to do this, she should be prepared for the fact that very unpleasant information may come up in correspondence. Question: is such truth needed and what to do with it now?
- Don't be intrusive. The less we love a woman, the more she likes us - a well-known fact, but for some reason the girls pretend that they have never heard of this.
- Let a man be a man. Try not to waste your money on yourself. Tell your man about your desires. Let him please you with gifts. And in no case, do not pay for yourself in a restaurant!
- Don't rush your wedding. In the first months of a relationship, you don’t need to tell the guy what kind of tablecloths you want to see on the tables during the wedding feast. Enjoy relationships outside of marriage. A man should not be rushed, the time will come, and he himself will make you an offer.
If a woman still believes that with a further marriage, we advise you to first understand yourself. Why does a man not want to get married? Either she chose the wrong man, or she was too actively seeking marriage. Do not put pressure on your loved ones, give them the opportunity to mature for marriage.
Increasingly, we are seeing a picture: it seems that the age is already suitable, but a person does not even think about marriage. There are more and more lonely people who do not want to visit registry offices. As well as the reasons that make them avoid them. Here are just a few of them.
1. Bad experience in the past
Not necessarily this experience is marriage. You may be skeptical about a wedding because your partner has cheated on you in the past or turned down a marriage proposal. Or maybe you just didn’t have that girl with whom you would like to stay all your life (or most of it).
2. Lack of time due to work
Careerists will understand that building relationships when you are up to your neck in work is incredibly difficult. When your goal is only a desired promotion, everything else fades into the background. You simply do not have enough time not only to go to the movies or a date in a restaurant, but also to have a candlelit dinner at home. Family life is not at all coming home to sleep. This is also work, and also hard. And not everyone can endure work after work.
3. Fear of commitment
Fear of commitment and responsibility is a very common reason why men are in no hurry to get married. It is difficult to argue with the fact that our generation is growing up later than the previous ones, and then there are the phrases that a man is a big child. And here you have a wife who expects material assistance from you, a child who needs to devote his time, relatives who need to be visited periodically. Add all this to the constant stress at work and a huge number of important decisions that a person must make daily. As a result, it turns out that it is much easier not to get married and not take on such responsibility, not only for yourself, but in many cases for your partner and your children.
4. Reluctance to leave the bachelor life
If someone in your group of friends has already ceased to be a bachelor, it is quite possible to assume that you have heard many contradictory things about marriage. It seems that you are both loved and appreciated, but they are not allowed to sit with the boys, spouses read correspondence on the phone with the legal rights of the spouse, and the budget is rapidly flowing away for new shoes for his wife. It starts to seem like marriage is a big mistake. You feel sorry for your friend and are in no hurry to burden yourself with bonds.
In fact, what your marriage will be like depends only on the two of you. The bachelor life is, of course, not bad, but you should not be afraid of marriage either. There are much more positive moments in it than negative ones, and negative ones can be learned to solve by ordinary conversation.
5. Stereotypes that a ring on your finger makes you less masculine.
Many men like to see (and feel) strong, free, and, as strange as it may sound, alone. These qualities create an image of a kind of macho, for whom marriage = reincarnation in a "henpecked". Of course, such people simply do not know how to negotiate and make concessions, since it seems to them that any compromises automatically deprive them of their “masculinity”. But if there is no wife at home, then no compromises need to be sought.
6. Cohabitation
Many couples live together for months or even years in the same apartment and consider each other spouses, without registering the marriage at the registry office. Moreover, the more time passes from the moment of the beginning of a joint life, the more difficult it is to decide on a stamp in the passport. A man may simply not see the point in official ceremonies, since everything is fine with him. But girls don't always share the same opinion.
7. Availability of sex without commitment
Sex without obligations has now become available to almost everyone. A person who is in no hurry to become an exemplary family man and does not dream about children in the near future, this is only at hand. Indeed, why get married if you can satisfy your needs for intimacy with a successful swipe on Tinder?
8. Inability to communicate with girls
Agree, this is by no means a rare occurrence. If in the presence of a girl you can’t even say a banal “Hello!”, Then what can we say about relationships and marriage. The same applies to men who, on a date, talk only about themselves, flirt too "sweetly" or play the role of Don Juan. In that case, don't be surprised that your potential brides are trying to run away from you as quickly as possible. And it's not about them at all.
9. Confidence that the marriage will not last long
There are also men who are overly pessimistic about marriage. “We will quickly get tired of each other”, “now everything is fine, but in a few years we will get divorced”, “she will demand alimony and forbid communicating with children.” Yes, these fears are real. And when you convince yourself in advance that your life together will not work out, it will happen.
10. Self-doubt
In an age when you are surrounded by photos of beefy handsome men and twenty-year-old millionaires, it is so easy to lose confidence in yourself. Any refusal (even potential) deals a heavy blow to a person's pride. It seems that you are not attractive enough, not smart enough, not well enough - the list of these "not enough" can go on forever. Therefore, some choose the so-called safe path - do not take any action.
11. Fear of "fading" intimacy
There are men in whose head there is a fear of the lack of intimacy in marriage. After all, there are so many horror stories like “as soon as you get married, the passion subsides, and sex will be at best once a month.” Bypassing registry offices because of this is at least stupid, because there are dozens, if not more, ways to maintain your former attraction in bed.