It happens that a guy begins to notice strange behavior behind his beloved. And he starts to get suspicious is the girl cheating on him. What signs may indicate a girl's betrayal and from what motives she can do this, now we'll figure it out.
The reason guys cheat in most cases is to get new emotions. The male sex is polygamous by nature, no matter what anyone says. And when a guy lives for a long time or meets with the same girl, there is a desire for novelty. Even if his intimate life with a regular partner suits him.
Girls are somewhat different. They will not look for something on the side "just like that", unlike men. If there is intimacy with a regular partner, then in most cases she will not have the desire to look for someone new.
But, this is a topic for a separate article. And now we will analyze the main points by which you can find out if a girl is cheating on you.
How to know if a girl is cheating?
She began to take special care of her appearance.
I started to spend more time applying makeup, preening more, began to wear revealing clothes, constantly waxing ... the list goes on. But the meaning is the same: what or who became the stimulus for such actions?
Strange phone calls and messages
She makes sure that you do not hear what she is talking about on the phone. Or simply hangs up the call, so that later in your absence they call back. The same can be messages: sms or messenger. Many guys just take a girl's phone without her knowing and check incoming calls and messages. On the one hand, this is a real way to find out the truth, although not one hundred percent. But to be honest, I don't like this method at all. Every person has a right to privacy. And the phone is such a thing where very personal information can be stored, and in a variety of ways. Therefore, it is not worth climbing other people's phones without asking). Follow the same approach for girls. How to behave in such situations will be written at the end of the article.
She turns off her phone
To prevent possible unexpected calls and messages, the girl simply turns off her cell phone. If you suspect this, tell her you don't know where you put your phone and have her dial it. If she starts to fuss or explain something inappropriately, ask why she turned off her cell phone. In general, the phone is the best resource for finding out the behavior of a girl.
She has a weak desire for intimacy with you.
If earlier “this” happened between you almost every day, and in a short period of time the interval became much longer, then you should think about it. Perhaps the girl has someone on the side, and the attraction to you has plummeted. She can come up with excuses for feeling unwell, tired, lack of time, etc.
She pays special attention to you
This may be due to the fact that the girl cheated once on emotions, and she had a feeling of guilt. Therefore, in order to prove to herself that you are her only beloved, she subconsciously can do some things that are unusual for her. For example, complimenting you, being very gentle, and the like.
She stays late at work or school
If a girl is dating another guy, then the time spent with him needs to be hidden somehow. Therefore, she says that at work there is a blockage, she has to stay longer. Similarly, in the case of studies: preparation of a term paper, participation in some events, etc. If this happens regularly, and this is followed by various explanations - a reason to think.
What to do if you suspect that a girl is cheating
Talk to her calmly and confidently. Say that you have such concerns. Explain where they came from.
Good relationships are based not on scandals and jealousy, but on trust. If it turns out that the partner did not justify the trust, they are destroyed. this is for a girl: if she is deceiving you, and you find out for sure, she will not see you again.
Stronger than cheating, I'm just afraid not to find out about cheating. It is terrible to love a person who no longer deserves it. How to find out if it changes or not? Signs of betrayal.
Lack of trust can destroy even ideal relationships. Especially if you have reason to suspect your girlfriend of infidelity. If you really want to know if she is cheating on you or not, follow these steps.
1. Pay attention to her behavior
1.1 She suddenly began to pay more attention to her appearance. If your girlfriend has completely updated her wardrobe in the last few months, while you are almost "not going out", then she is dressing up for someone else. This could be a work colleague, a classmate, a classmate, or anyone else in her circle. If she overdresses to have coffee with friends or go to the market, she may be hiding something.
If she suddenly began to follow her figure and disappear in the gym, perhaps she is trying for some guy.
Let's be a little clear: it's likely that she just wants to look more attractive and in good shape. However, this item, along with the rest, may be a signal of treason.
1.2 Consider if she has moved away from your family. She may have loved your aunt's monthly meals, but the last three times she's always been busy. Or maybe she used to love shopping with your sister, and now she hasn't spoken in weeks. What about time with your parents? Maybe before she was friendly and sociable, but now, when communicating with them, she looks quiet and ready to leave at any moment.
If she's cheating, spending time with your family will remind her of her infidelity, so she'll naturally avoid your family.
This one can also serve as a signal that she wants to end your relationship, whether she cheats or not.
1.3 Has she become distant from your friends? The situation is the same as with the family. If she has suddenly stopped hanging out with your friends and avoids interacting with them, she may want to get rid of you. If she's cheating on you, she probably thinks she doesn't deserve to be in your social circle, or doesn't want to remember how fun and good you were before everything went wrong.
If this becomes obvious, don't be afraid to ask why. She may have another explanation for why she doesn't want to spend time with your friends.
If she continues to communicate with your friends, however, both her behavior and the attitude of her friends towards her have changed, becoming somehow awkward, most likely, your friends know something. A classic of the genre: your girlfriend is cheating on you and you will be the last to know.
1.4 If she refuses to have sex. While cheating men tend to increase the amount of sex in their lives, cheating women do the opposite. If a woman falls in love with someone else, she may feel guilty or simply lose interest in having sex with you. If you've had a pretty busy sex life in the past, but now she's always tired or constantly feeling unwell, it's likely that someone else is satisfying her.
If she cheats, she will also cover her body. She will not want you to see her naked and will always wrap herself in a blanket.
Of course, the refusal of sex can be caused by general dissatisfaction from the relationship or depression. If she is playful and cheerful outside of the house, but distant with you, you are probably in trouble.
1.5 If she stopped paying attention to you. What could be worse than a girl who always saws you? A girl who doesn't care about you. As soon as she cools off towards you, you yourself will begin to want her to start complaining again that you do not wash the dishes.
1.6 If she suddenly became too busy to see you. Previously, you were together on Sundays and saw each other on weekdays, but now she cannot find a minute for you all weekend? You used to watch your favorite TV show on Tuesdays, but now she has courses in the evenings? Doesn't she even apologize or notice that the two of you aren't doing things together anymore? If she began to often stay late at work, spend more time with friends or in the gym, this may be a sign that another man has appeared in her life.
Pay attention to how she is going to a meeting with friends. Does she dress too sexy, sing songs, or act unnaturally playful? If so, maybe she's dating someone special.
1.7 If she became jealous of her phone and computer. She used to leave her phone in plain sight and show you funny articles on her computer or ask for advice on paperwork. Now she immediately slams the laptop as soon as you enter the room, does not send SMS in front of you and put a password on the phone and computer. If she previously didn't care about personal space, but suddenly things have changed, she may not want you to see who she's talking to.
If you have suspicions and you see that she is texting someone, ask directly with whom. Pay attention to her reaction. Does she answer quickly and honestly, or does she snap and dodge?
1.8 If she began to disappear for a long time without explanation. This is the surest sign that a girl is unfaithful. If you call or text her and don't get a response for hours, you may have a problem. If this happened once or twice, then everything is fine. But if it happens a few times a week and she always says her phone is dead or she didn't hear a call, it's time to sound the alarm.
Just casually ask her. What was she doing when she wasn't answering her calls. Read her face: Does her expression change and does she look embarrassed?
2. Pay attention to her words
2.1 If she suddenly mentioned a “new friend”. Has she mentioned the name of a colleague or classmate once or twice recently? Did you mention it more often? If so, perhaps you should be wary of this mysterious man. Ask basic questions about this person. Does she blush and snap? She may not want you to know anything about him.
Pay attention to her facial expression and tone of voice when the person's name comes up. Does she look excited and playful? Or guilty? If so, she's probably cheating.
2.2 If she nags you more than usual. Even if she has a million reasons to nag you, one of them may be that you no longer seduce her. She may also feel guilty for betraying you and use rebuke as an excuse for her behavior.
Again, this may simply be a sign that she is unhappy in the relationship. But it's still not a good sign.
2.3 If she gets confused in her schedule. Pay attention if she says that she is going to drink coffee with a friend, and then she can hardly name the place where they were or even remember it. Perhaps she was with someone else.
2.4 If she is suddenly interested in your daily schedule. This may be a sign of concern, or she is trying to make sure that you do not catch her.
If you want to catch her, say you won't be at a certain place at such and such a time, and then suddenly change plans.
3. Exposing treason
3.1 Follow her. Of course, it's best to trust the person, but if you're desperate and afraid to ask directly, follow her. You shouldn't follow her car like a maniac. Just appear in the place where she should be and check if she is there and with whom. So you can:
If she is late at work, show up there to ask how she is doing. If she's not at work, you're in trouble.
If she goes to a bar or restaurant with her friends, go there an hour after the scheduled time and check if she is there. Come up with a good excuse why you are in this place.
3.2 Appear to her without warning. If she says she is expecting you in half an hour, come immediately. Say you don't want to and can't wait to see her. Does she run to the shower or try to hide the signs of finding another man? Does she not let you into the bedroom, or worse, doesn't she let you in at all? This is the moment to catch her in a lie.
3.3 Check her things. Again, this is another way to lose trust. However, if you are desperate, check your phone and computer. If all sms and letters are erased, this is a little suspicious.
3.4 Just ask. Share your suspicions and feelings. But don't lash out with accusations. See if she answered your question. If she does not cheat, she does not need to get out and convince you that everything is fine. If she snaps, turns arrows on you, this may be a manifestation of guilt.
Tips
If your girlfriend has started acting differently, speaking in a different manner, especially when you're not around, this could be a sign.
Your girlfriend is most likely cheating on you if she no longer finds time to see you.
If your girlfriend comes home late after a long absence, it could be a sign that she's having an affair.
If nothing can be done about it, just leave.
She can find thousands of reasons to make you feel guilty about her infidelities.
Girls have boyfriends. Do not look askance at her if she hugs someone when meeting.
If she's always on the phone and you can't get through to her, she might be cheating on you.
If she is looking for excuses not to see you, but she is going to meet friends on the other side of the city, then she does not want to be with you anymore.
If your girlfriend has become too cute, this can also be a sign of infidelity.
If she doesn't make eye contact when you talk, she might be cheating.
She made new friends with whom she spends almost all her free time. Sometimes these girlfriends are fictitious, but at this time a girl meets another guy. But sometimes - female deceit is inventive and limitless! - previously unfamiliar friends really appear in her environment. She deliberately plays friendship with them - to divert eyes. A third option is also possible, when new friends really appeared, criticized her partner, and she decided to seek happiness with another. And in case nothing worked out, do not break off relations with the former.
The girl receives frequent calls, but she does not answer calls in the presence of a guy. It is quite possible that the topic of conversation concerns some kind of female stuff - gynecologist consultations, contraception, facial cleansing, not everything is so smooth and trusting in their relationship or on another holiday. Young girls can shroud even the purchase of eau de toilette as a gift with a halo of mystery. But if such calls are regular, then the guy has something to think about.
She has new hobbies that "eat up" her time. However, she does not invite her boyfriend with her. The fact is that very young girls are still poorly versed in what is interesting to men and what is not. Moreover, they do not yet know exactly what is interesting to them. Therefore, being carried away by a foreign language or floristry, a girl will surely want to introduce her friend to this, even if he is not at all interested in languages, and considers the formation of bouquets to be a woman's business. But if a girl simply reports on some new hobby, but does not go into details, does not post photos with new acquaintances and her achievements on the Internet, does not invite a guy with her and is against him meeting her after class, then this sign almost certainly indicates the appearance of an opponent.
The girl has a friend. Yes, she may well deliberately advertise a relationship with another, calling him a friend, or even a second cousin. At the same time, a friend comes to visit her and invites her to his place, meets and sees her off, and generally behaves not quite in a friendly way. Why he agrees to share the girl with someone else is another question.
She has a page on a dating site. Even if she met her boyfriend there, started dating him, but did not remove the page, this means, most likely, that she is still in search.
A password appeared on her phone or tablet, which she hides. At the same time, releasing the phone from her hands, she minimizes the windows and turns on protection. She must have something to hide, so that they do not say there.
She got a second phone, which the guy found out by accident. Several phones are now the norm, but their presence is not hidden from loved ones. If the second phone is a secret, and the girl does not work in intelligence and is not a secret agent, then the gadget is probably used to communicate with another guy and store joint photos in it.
How to check if a girl is cheating?
You can try to check her phone for calls and messages in a playful tone. But since most smartphones now have multiple levels of personal protection, this is no longer easy.
You can create a fake page on a social network and get to know your girlfriend, trying to find out if she is against dating. On this trick came across many girls. But fake pages usually repel, arousing suspicion, so you need to try and make it as “live” and real as possible.
As an option, ask a friend whom the girl does not know to get to know her and offer to start dating. There is a real risk that they will like each other and start dating for real. In addition, sooner or later the girl will find out about the friendship of her boyfriend with a new acquaintance and will suspect something was wrong. And here it is not far from the quarrel.
Are such checks necessary?
If the desire to check the girl arose "just like that", then you do not need to implement it. This can greatly offend the girl and push her away.
But if there are real reasons to suspect her, then it is not forbidden to check. You just need to be prepared for the fact that suspicions will turn out to be unfounded.
What to do if suspicions of treason are confirmed?
Since we are talking about dating people, and not about a married couple who already have a lot in common, the most reasonable solution would be to break up. If a girl is dating someone else now, it is possible that she will continue to do so. She is simply looking for the person with whom she will be most comfortable. Comfort for each girl is understood individually. Someone is looking for a wealthy young man with whom you can relax in expensive resorts, receive jewelry as a gift and dine in upscale restaurants. Someone wants a hand-written handsome man to envy all his girlfriends. At the same time, the standards of beauty change regularly. For a short period of time, it was Leonardo di Caprio, and Eminem, and Brad Pitt, and Robert Patisson. So you can’t keep up with the windy fashion, even if you try your best. There are girls who prefer mature men, feeling protected and taken care of with them. What she needs, she herself does not yet know, so she searches, chooses, decides. Others need a highly intelligent guy to grow and develop with him, to raise their cultural level. And there are those who themselves want to "pull" the guy and choose from those whose level of education and intelligence is obviously lower.
Of course, if it seems that this girl is the love of her life, then you should forgive her, forget about her betrayal (forget completely, absolutely, completely) and try to improve relations with her. Maybe she herself is worried about her act, or maybe her betrayal was imaginary and was intended to attract attention. In any case, you first need to talk to the girl in order to find out what dictated her act, how she herself treats him and what they should do next. But you can’t make a row, threaten suicide, reprisal against an opponent, blackmail, and so on. This will push your girlfriend away as quickly as possible.
What does he do if the suspicions are not confirmed, but not dispelled?
If the categories of men who are constantly overwhelmed by jealousy, even if a woman does not give reasons for this. Often jealous or very young men, fueled by hormones. Or insecure and notorious. Men of the second category are jealous to a ripe old age and torment the whole family with their jealousy.
Guys who had a very jealous father are prone to suspicion. If the father suspected the mother, made scandals about imaginary names, then the son will grow up with the same position regarding women.
Also, the tendency to be jealous is formed under the influence of childhood psychological trauma. If the mother went to her lover, and the son stayed with his dad, then implicitly he will expect such behavior from all the women with whom he will have a relationship.
If jealousy interferes with life, and suspicion destroys relationships with the opposite sex, it is necessary to solve this problem with a psychologist. If you don’t deal with it, then no normal girl will stay with such a jealous person for a long time.
You can understand whether a girl is cheating on her chosen one by the characteristics of her behavior. There are several signs that clearly point to deception.
Cheating, of course, spoils relationships, but they can be prevented if you pay attention to the behavior of your soul mate. Girls who are ready to change or who have already found someone “on the side” behave differently, become more hidden and withdrawn. Don't be fooled and check what's going on in your relationship.
1. A cheating girl limits her personal space. She begins to hide correspondence, does not give her phone or computer, gets nervous if her partner used one of the gadgets without asking. Most likely, she will change passwords to exclude access to personal information. It is important to understand that the concept of personal space is different for everyone, and not every friend will be happy if her faithful from the first day of their life together is going to leaf through her correspondence and monitor social networks. It is precisely a sharp and inexplicable desire to urgently protect yourself from a partner that should alert you, if this has not happened before.
2. The girl begins to take care of herself, changes her image from hair and makeup to clothes. Previously, she did this for her partner, but over time, feelings and emotions became dull, many hours of fees were reduced. And here again the girl is spinning near the mirror, straightening her hair, and instead of the usual sneakers she puts on heels, carefully paints and uses new toilet water. Such a sign clearly indicates that she wants to impress, and perhaps not her partner.
3. The girl begins to spend more time in the company of friends, but does not invite her partner to meetings. She can come home late, in a great mood, and she will only dismiss questions about how she spent her time. It is possible that after such walks she will be banned in the bathroom along with the phone.
4. Your intimate life tends to zero. Even kisses have become rare, and when you go out, the girl does not hold your hand. This behavior may indicate that she is changing. She wants to see not you next to her, and it became unpleasant for her to kiss you.
5. The girl begins to notice the shortcomings of her partner, criticize his lifestyle, manner of dressing, talking and even drinking tea. If before she called it cute little things, now she is getting more and more angry. This behavior also indicates possible treason. The girl subconsciously compares the chosen ones, and obviously not in your favor.
6. She begins to miss calls, stops responding to messages and very often says that the phone has sat down or she did not hear the melody. It is possible that at such moments the girl meets a new fan, so the phone is on silent mode or completely turned off.
7. She has overtime work, new responsibilities at the institute or other things that do not allow her to come home on time. If this has not happened before, then the partner should think about it.
8. The girl becomes indifferent partner. She stops noticing his late arrivals from work or school, does not pay attention to his appearance, and generally seems to have forgotten that he exists. Communication is reduced to a minimum, and the partner feels that his chosen one is moving away.
9. The girl herself can tell about a new acquaintance, in every possible way emphasize that they are connected only by friendly relations. However, more and more often the eyes begin to shine, and stories about his virtues, character traits and appearance can go on for a long time.
10. The behavior of the girl who cheated is changing. She can become nervous and irritable, or she can withdraw into herself, trying to avoid any contact with her partner. In this case, the smile on her lips fades, she thinks more and more often, ignoring attempts to start a conversation.
The main signs of a girl's infidelity are easy to recognize. But it is important not to confuse them with the usual changes in the life of a loved one. And before you decide how to convict a girl of treason, think about whether there is another underlying reason in her behavior.
Parallel relationships or their development are not easy to hide, a friend will resort to various tricks. Before planning how to check a girl, you need to try to figure out whether he is cheating or not. Patience, endurance, observation - and the secret will be revealed. So here are the warning signs:
- The unexpected arrival of a new friend. This item may be useless if the girl has recently changed her place of work or study - new acquaintances are natural. You should be vigilant if a mysterious friend appeared literally “out of thin air”, you have not heard of her before. Recently, her beloved complained that she was lonely wandering around the shops, now she spends most of her time with the mysterious Masha. How to understand if a girl is cheating on you - ask in more detail about a new girlfriend, common interests, place of acquaintance. Remember the answers, after a week, repeat the collection of information - compare the result.
Another option is how to determine the betrayal of a girl: ask to introduce Masha. Prepare in advance to listen to a thousand excuses from your beloved, how impossible this mission is.
- Indifference to partner's leisure. Before, the girl was interested in where you were going, but the interrogations with prejudice were left behind. Beloved managed to be jealous of the friends with whom you spent your free time. Now the traitor benefits from your absences. She will not say a word across, because her hands are completely untied. This is another sign in the piggy bank of observations, how to find out if a girl is cheating or not.
- No claims. Beloved is not only not interested in the leisure of the chosen one - she has sharply reduced the level of bitchiness to zero. More recently, in the morning you listened to an angry tirade about a mirror spattered with toothpaste, and in the evening you got stuck for picking your teeth with a fork. Now peace and quiet reigns in the house, and God's grace, but it's too early to relax or rejoice. Girls act like a tyrant when relationships are important to them – they want to make a perfect partner. Instead of searching the Internet for days and nights for information “how to find out if a girl is cheating on me,” it is enough to assess the degree of her indifference.
Important! When a romance is born on the side, the traitor is indifferent to what is happening in the “Danish kingdom”. She doesn't care about anything other than a new developing relationship. How to determine that a girl cheated on you - deliberately cause an explosion of negative emotions, asking for a comment. The storm passed by - the opponent is much closer than on the horizon.
- Change in behavior. Sudden change of interests and sexual habits should alert. For example, the girl has always been indifferent to football, and now she can say with confidence that Messi is the best scorer of all time. A rare representative of the fair sex cheats for the sake of banal sex - women need attention and communication. She subconsciously absorbs the information heard from her lover. Unexpected experiments in sex are also transferred from someone else's bed to "native" - and her beloved began to bite her neck in a fit of passion for a reason.
Important! The lack of an intimate life is not a reason to accuse a girlfriend of infidelity. The first item on the popular lists “How to find out if a girl is cheating on you” is precisely sexual abstinence. To lull vigilance, she may not refuse sex on the principle of "satisfied - disarmed." In the wake of an emotional upsurge, a girl is able to simultaneously indulge in sexual games with her lover and with a permanent partner. However, small adjustments and new addictions will always be noticeable.
- Improvement in appearance. The main mistake of all guys thinking about how to catch a girl cheating is to pay attention to the wardrobe. Women of any age and status love new clothes, so buying clothes can hardly be called the main indicator of infidelity. Much more important is what is under the clothes. The closer the X hour, the greater the emphasis on underwear. Permanent relationships relax the girl at the everyday level: she ceases to be ashamed of unshaven legs, dirty hair. The gentleman on the side keeps her in good shape with sudden calls, unexpected dates - you have to live up to the ideal.
Important! How to understand that a girl cheated on you? Observe her behavior after returning home. She will probably go to the shower, and put the laundry in the washer. The make-up she's been working on all morning will be gone.
- Inseparability with gadgets. Modern people are literally glued to laptops, tablets, smartphones and computers, but the traitor has a special attachment to instant messengers. The blush does not leave her face when she selflessly scribbles text messages, she answers questions about the interlocutor inconsistently or aggressively. The phone can hardly be seen accidentally forgotten on the bedside table, access to the computer will be password-protected.
Important! This behavior can be observed if a loved one is preparing a surprise dedicated to a birthday or memorable date. If no celebration is expected in the coming months, most likely, bad news awaits you.
How to check the fact of treason
There are several simple tricks to check a girl for treason:
- Mobile phone check. It is more logical to cover your tracks, but how to resist the temptation to re-read the love messages of a secret admirer? The messages contain comprehensive information.
- Regular calls. The less often a girl answers calls, the higher the likelihood that she has a boyfriend. She can refuse dates on weekends, strictly forbid meeting her at the end of the day.
- Word confirmation. Before the girl leaves, ask where and with whom she is going. "Accidentally" find yourself in the agreed place. If the "alibi" is false - call back, specifying the information. Her answer will finally dot the i's.
Important! Sometimes it is dangerous to dwell on the thought of how to find out that a girl has cheated on you. It is not uncommon for a loved one to simply move away: life is stuck, a partner deprives her of attention. The fact does not add optimism, but we are not talking about treason either. If after the checks the presence of an opponent is not confirmed, this is a chance to refresh the relationship.
It is necessary to look for indirect signs and hints: late delays, long gatherings with friends and the emergence of unusual interests. The search for a telephone contact "Lubovnik Oleg" is unlikely to be successful. Sometimes a man, with his own indifference, pushes a girl into the arms of a lover - an accidental female betrayal is extremely rare.