Sometimes it seems that in our penates there are no people left with big and warm hearts, capable of selflessly helping those who are in trouble. But this is not true! "Good News" offers you real-life stories that prove that the world is not without good people. Read about how children donate toys for the benefit of their neighbors, bosses donate New Year's corporate parties, and ordinary Chelyabinsk residents donate their own bone marrow in our special selection.
Disabled Vova Klimov and 16 years of charity in pursuit of a dream
Five years ago, the whole country learned about the Chelyabinsk invalid Vladimir Klimov. Several federal channels immediately told how this smiling guy in the rain, cold and heat begged for alms at a store in the Leninsky district in order to fulfill his dream - to move into an apartment on the ground floor. He lived with elderly parents on the 9th floor: the elevator broke down endlessly and Vova used to spend the night on the street when there was no one to drag him upstairs with the stroller. Over the long 16 years, he managed to accumulate about 600 thousand rubles in alms, about the same amount was not enough to purchase a small studio on the ground floor. Shortly after the release of the television story, an unknown philanthropist transferred the missing amount to Vova. With a note: "For a dream." Thanks to a mysterious stranger, Vova has moved in for a couple of years and has even made repairs.
Yulia Kovaleva, who donated bone marrow
In 2013, the then 23-year-old resident of Chelyabinsk, Yulia Kovaleva, became a bone marrow donor for dozens of children from various rehabilitation centers in the country. At the same time, Yulia is the first person in Russia who literally donated part of himself, without being a relative for the sick. She was driven to such an act by a feeling of mercy and compassion for sick children. It should be noted that after Yulia, several more Chelyabinsk residents donated stem cells from the bone marrow for those who suffer in different parts of our country.
District police officer who sheltered a family of fire victims
The fire broke out on the night of November 10 in the village of Travniki. The house caught fire due to unlucky neighbors and burned down completely, leaving the inhabitants of the house - Alexander, Elena and 14-year-old daughter Anya on the street in the middle of the night in their nightgowns. The Kovins had nowhere to go. However, help came from where they did not expect: from the local district police officer Ivan Vasilievich Goloshchapov. Having learned about the tragedy, the 31-year-old major sheltered a completely unfamiliar family in his apartment. By the way, other people also helped. For example, a family from Chelyabinsk, Ekaterina and Andrey Poverins, created a social media help group and collected about 100,000 rubles for the Kovins. With this money they bought building materials and little by little began to build a new house.
Five-year-old Anya, who donated 200 toys to charity
The girl was inspired to give away her favorite Smeshariki, elephants and lambs by her 15-year-old sister Nastya, who has been taking her toys to an orphanage since childhood. The sisters were taught to do good deeds by their mother, Ekaterina Svechnikova. She always tells the girls how important it is to share with those who lack something.
Anya took the toys to the social discount store Vo Blago, where they were put up for sale at minimal prices. The proceeds went to help children from low-income families in Chelyabinsk.
The boss canceled the New Year's corporate party and gave money for the operation to the baby
The Kritskov family Dmitry and Irina arrived in Chelyabinsk from Donetsk in 2014, when Irina was already 6 months pregnant. When the boy, he was named Zhenya, was born, he had severe disorders of the genitourinary system, and an operation was urgently needed. The family was looking for a doctor and finally found the British surgeon Imran Mushtaq. However, a very large amount was required for the flight and the operation, which, of course, the refugees did not have. Fortunately for them, the owner of one of the Chelyabinsk companies found out about the story, who decided to cancel the New Year's corporate party, and give the 1 million rubles not spent on champagne and snacks to the Kritskovs. As a result, the baby was successfully operated on, after which he immediately went on the mend.
To be continued…
Examples of compassion from life experience
Sympathy, compassion, support… We have been hearing these words since childhood, but we do not always understand their true meaning. I still only intuitively define the boundary between compassion and empathy, but support should accompany both of these concepts.
I used the explanatory dictionary to find out the meaning of the terms of interest to me. According to Ozhegov and Shvedova, compassion is “pity, sympathy caused by someone’s misfortune, grief”, and sympathy is “a responsive, sympathetic attitude to the experiences, misfortune of others”. Thus, we can conclude that compassion is one of the sides of sympathy.
Support is, in my opinion, helping a person who is in some kind of trouble. But it doesn't have to be tangible or physical. In my opinion, moral support is quite enough to cause gratitude. Of course, I do not think that it is necessary to help for the sake of reciprocal services. Real support is disinterested, it is given out of good intentions, sympathizing and compassion for the person.
There are many examples of sympathy, compassion, support from literary works. But, unfortunately, no less examples can be picked up from real life.
Usually close people sympathize with a person. Friends and relatives know you better than others, they understand how to support you, not to let you make a mistake. I'm not an exception. When my good friend got into family troubles, I didn't talk about the fault of the relatives, or about her own intemperance and stupidity. I just found those words that cheered up my friend, made her feel that she was not alone, that not everything was lost. Based on my own experience, I will assume that the compassion that can be accepted by a strong person should be sincere, cordial. If you understand that the situation does not evoke a response in your soul, try to find practical advice so as not to offend a relative, friend or acquaintance with indifference.
When misfortune befalls a person, he needs support and compassion. It is always easier to endure something, knowing that you are not alone, that someone understands you and your condition. The most important aspect of compassion is the ability to feel the experiences of another person, accept them and show it. Naturally, in order to be able to do this, you need to be an empath to some extent. It is unlikely that a cold and callous person can feel compassion - he is too closed for this.
In my understanding, a person experiencing compassion must have rich life experience, remember his emotional state when he felt bad, bitter, hurt, in order to resurrect him at the right time.
Before giving an example from life about compassion for people, let's remember the meaning of this word.
Compassion → participation and sympathy for someone else's suffering, grief.
Unlike pity, which is limited to a feeling of sadness for someone else's misfortune, compassion is empathy, an impulse to help a person. You can feel sorry for yourself as well, but you can only feel compassion for other people.
Examples:
1. Your best friend lost his beloved dog. He is very worried, does not find a place for himself. We sympathize with him and want to help, for example: we cheer him up, we say that she will definitely be found, we help put up notices about the loss, together we look in the yards of the nearest streets.
2. An old lonely veteran grandfather lives next to us, who finds it difficult to move independently. We sympathize with him, sometimes we go to buy food or medicine, we go to talk for tea.
3. On the street, a man stumbled and fell, who, when falling, badly hurt his leg. We are compassionate (do not pass by) and can help him get to the hospital or call an ambulance, bring water if he asks.
4. Some people who are compassionate to others become volunteers (help for free): helping the disabled, orphans, the poor, the elderly, that is, people in need of moral or material support.
Essay by a Grade 11A Graduate Fionkina Julia
Sympathy, compassion, support… We have been hearing these words since childhood, but we do not always understand their true meaning. I still only intuitively define the boundary between compassion and empathy, but support should accompany both of these concepts.
I used the explanatory dictionary to find out the meaning of the terms of interest to me. According to Ozhegov and Shvedova, compassion is "pity, sympathy caused by someone's misfortune, grief", and sympathy is "a responsive, sympathetic attitude to the experiences, misfortune of others." Thus, we can conclude that compassion is one of the sides of sympathy.
Support is, in my opinion, helping a person who is in some kind of trouble. But it doesn't have to be tangible or physical. In my opinion, moral support is quite enough to cause gratitude. Of course, I do not think that it is necessary to help for the sake of reciprocal services. Real support is disinterested, it is given out of good intentions, sympathizing and compassion for the person.
There are many examples of sympathy, compassion, support from literary works. But, unfortunately, no less examples can be picked up from real life. Usually close people sympathize with a person. Friends and relatives know you better than others, they understand how to support you, not to let you make a mistake. I'm not an exception. When my good friend got into family troubles, I didn't talk about the fault of the relatives, or about her own intemperance and stupidity. I just found those words that cheered up my friend, made her feel that she was not alone, that not everything was lost.
Based on my own experience, I will assume that the compassion that can be accepted by a strong person should be sincere, cordial. If you understand that the situation does not evoke a response in your soul, try to find practical advice so as not to offend a relative, friend or acquaintance with indifference. When misfortune befalls a person, he needs support and compassion. It is always easier to endure something, knowing that you are not alone, that someone understands you and your condition. The most important aspect of compassion is the ability to feel the experiences of another person, accept them and show it. Naturally, in order to be able to do this, you need to be an empath to some extent. It is unlikely that a cold and callous person can feel compassion - he is too closed for this. In my understanding, a person experiencing compassion must have rich life experience, remember his emotional state when he felt bad, bitter, hurt, in order to resurrect him at the right time.
Sympathy, that is, the manifestation of pity for someone, also requires a certain emotional state. Some people think empathy is degrading. I tried to consider this thesis from a psychological point of view and got interesting conclusions. On the one hand, any person wants to be considered strong. Pity for him shows that he has a weak spot. In my life, there were cases when sincere sympathy was perceived negatively by a close friend, as humiliation. Because of my desire to help, to support, we quarreled, and as a result, my friend suffered even more and longer.
Analyzing now our behavior and words, I come to the conclusion that it was better to leave her alone. So, my fault in the quarrel is also there. I didn't feel my friend's mood. However, her unwillingness to realize her own mistakes and accept someone else's support because of my admission of guilt does not cease to be the cause of our quarrel.Thus, sympathy, mistaken for banal pity, can really become humiliation if a person is able to cope with his troubles on his own. As far as I understand, the perception of compassion, empathy and support depends on the character and willpower of the person. On the other hand, if people do not sympathize with each other, they will become cruel. Then it will be possible to forget about mutual assistance, empathy and humanity. It is quite logical that such a path would be the death of mankind. I believe that people who are sympathetic, compassionate, supportive of others will never be left alone, without friends, without those who can lend a shoulder in difficult times. And it's wonderful.
sympathy and pity for the poor. Do lives need sympathy and regret? Help me write a small essay) perhaps I got the best answer
Answer from Yovyatoslav Guardian[master]
Sympathy and regret in moral terms will be useful, but society has long been to such a level that people are constantly hypocritical, even in the banal "How are you?" - "Normal", but things, let's say, are a nightmare.
Cursing before other people is becoming more and more widespread. Some people, after such a poor life, have an opinion that a mockery of him is hidden behind sympathy, which, of course, is unpleasant. Imagine that you would be in poverty, and you would constantly sympathize. But what will it be? Sincerity? Obyazalovka? Or ethics? More and more people tend to be bound, which, rather, makes a person feel even more painful than just walking by and not even paying attention.
My opinion: any gesture towards sympathy for the poor should be backed up by virtuous deeds, no matter: Monetary or labor. Otherwise, words lose all meaning or take on a different, sometimes unkind meaning.
Answer from Ann SL[newbie]
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Sympathy, compassion, support… We have been hearing these words since childhood, but we do not always understand their true meaning. I still only intuitively define the boundary between compassion and empathy, but support should accompany both of these concepts.
I used the explanatory dictionary to find out the meaning of the terms of interest to me. According to Ozhegov and Shvedova, compassion is "pity, sympathy caused by someone's misfortune, grief", and sympathy is "a responsive, sympathetic attitude to the experiences, misfortune of others." Thus, we can conclude that compassion is one of the sides of sympathy.
Support is, in my opinion, helping a person who is in some kind of trouble. But it doesn't have to be tangible or physical. In my opinion, moral support is quite enough to cause gratitude. Of course, I do not think that it is necessary to help for the sake of reciprocal services. Real support is disinterested, it is given out of good intentions, sympathizing and compassion for the person.
There are many examples of sympathy, compassion, support from literary works. But, unfortunately, no less examples can be picked up from real life.
Usually close people sympathize with a person. Friends and relatives know you better than others, they understand how to support you, not to let you make a mistake. I'm not an exception. When my good friend got into family troubles, I didn't talk about the fault of the relatives, or about her own intemperance and stupidity. I just found those words that cheered up my friend, made her feel that she was not alone, that not everything was lost. Based on my own experience, I will assume that the compassion that can be accepted by a strong person should be sincere, cordial. If you understand that the situation does not evoke a response in your soul, try to find practical advice so as not to offend a relative, friend or acquaintance with indifference.
When misfortune befalls a person, he needs support and compassion. It is always easier to endure something, knowing that you are not alone, that someone understands you and your condition. The most important aspect of compassion is the ability to feel the experiences of another person, accept them and show it. Naturally, in order to be able to do this, you need to be an empath to some extent. It is unlikely that a cold and callous person can feel compassion - he is too closed for this.
In my understanding, a person experiencing compassion must have rich life experience, remember his emotional state when he felt bad, bitter, hurt, in order to resurrect him at the right time.
Answer from Ѓmka Magdieva[guru]
There lived a blind man. He sat on the street right on the pavement and begged for alms. Next to him lay a piece of the canyon with the inscription: "I'm blind, help!"
They gave him very little money.
One day a girl came up to him. She read the inscription, gave alms. But her actions didn't end there. She corrected the writing on the cardboard. While she was writing, the blind man touched her shoes and memorized them by touch. After the girl left. Since then, the blind began to give a lot, a lot of money.
At the end of the working day, this girl again approached him. He asked: “Honey, what have you done. It turns out that on the cardboard she wrote: “This day is beautiful, but I don’t see it. "
So the nobility and compassion of a young girl made a blind man rich and happy.
THIS IS ABOUT COMPASSION FOR THE POOR
Answer from pussy[newbie]
Thus, sympathy, mistaken for banal pity, can really become humiliation if a person is able to cope with his troubles on his own. As far as I understand, the perception of compassion, sympathy and support depends on the character and willpower of a person. On the other hand, if people do not sympathize with each other, they will become tough. Then you can forget about mutual assistance. Such a path would be doom for mankind. I believe that people who are sympathetic, compassionate, supportive of others will never be left alone, without friends, without those who can lend a shoulder in difficult times. And it's wonderful.
Answer from Evgeny Fedorkin[newbie]
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Answer from Freckle[expert]
Sympathizing with someone, a person seems to live through a difficult moment in someone else's life and give a piece of himself in order to save the desperate.
For me, the ability to understand, hear and take on my soul a blow addressed to another is fundamental in relationships ...
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Answer from 3 answers[guru]
Hello! Here is a selection of topics with answers to your question: sympathy and pity for the poor. Do lives need sympathy and regret? Help me write a short essay
Greetings, dear readers and guests of my blog! Today I want to talk to you about such an important human quality as compassion, its examples and distinctive features. This is one of the highest qualities of a person, only on one condition that it is true and not false. It is sometimes confused with worldly charity, or pity, how they differ, I will tell a little later. Therefore, read the article to the end.
In explanatory dictionaries, you can find a definition that this is pity for someone else's grief, joint suffering. On this topic, of course, you can argue for a long time, but I believe that this definition is fundamentally wrong.
Compassion is the ability of a person to feel the emotions and experiences of other people. It is a light that comes from one person and softens or even heals the pain of another.
Compassion has its components, without which it cannot be complete. It is kindness, mercy, love, respect and patience.
Let's look at each component in more detail.
Mercy
This two-root word literally means "sweet heart." What does mercy mean? First of all - disinterested help. For example, help an elderly person carry bags, feed a hungry street dog, just listen to someone. Secondly, mercy is the ability to forgive.
Kindness
This is a caring attitude towards people and the world as a whole. Kindness is not always obvious, sometimes it is not easy to see.
Let me give you two parents as an example. The father generously feeds the little son with sweets, cakes and other sweets that he asks for. And mom, on the contrary, does not allow him to get involved in sweets. Of course, in the opinion of the child, dad in this situation is kinder. But is it really so? Sometimes what is taken for kindness is simply the inability to refuse, ordinary conformity. Of course, in this case, real kindness and care is shown by the mother, although she is hidden behind external severity.
Love
A lot has been said and written about love, because it is such a broad and comprehensive concept that one can talk about endlessly. But now we will consider love as a component of compassion.
Of course, it is much easier to empathize with your loved ones, loved ones, because the emotions of kindred souls resonate at the same frequency. But what about strangers or how to sympathize with the enemy? In order to learn to love and feel the whole world around and its inhabitants, it is necessary to improve and develop one's spiritual qualities.
Respect
The object of compassion must be treated with respect. Even if it is a small earthworm, it is the same creation of nature that this world needs. Without due respect and understanding, compassion turns into pity and humiliates the one to whom this feeling is manifested.
Patience
When you do things, it happens that they are not appreciated. Patience in this case will be an indicator of sincerity.
Showing compassion and empathy
Let's look at a few examples of how compassion is shown. Let's start with the most common one.
worldly charity
For famous, rich people, charity is now in vogue. I have nothing against this fashion, quite the contrary, perhaps it is the best of all existing ones and I support it. Only such good deeds done from selfish motives (the pursuit of fashion trends, the desire to look better in the eyes of others, fame, recognition) cannot be called sincere compassion. It cannot purify the soul and fill it with light.
Very rare individuals do not flaunt their good deeds. If a person is driven by such selfish motives, then let's say if they are not justified, if they are not glorified properly, then it is incomprehensible that he would have committed such a charitable act.
True compassion
True compassion comes from the depths of the heart, it inspires a person to do good deeds without demanding anything in return.
W.B.3.3.21
tikshavah karunikah
suhrdah sarva-dehinam
ajata-satravah santah
sadhavah sadhu-bhusanah
Sadhu is patient and merciful, he is the friend of all living beings. He has no enemies, he is peaceful, strictly follows the injunctions of the shastras and is endowed with all the virtues.
A sadhu is a deeply spiritual person who has dedicated his life to God and strives to give knowledge to others. And all the qualities of compassion, according to this verse, are fully manifested in him.
He is patient and merciful. He develops friendship for all living beings, which means that he is equally merciful to people and animals. Every living being in this world has the right to life. Such a person does not harbor enmity towards anyone, even if someone is hostile to him. When doing good deeds, the sadhu is patient, because often people do not appreciate his deeds. The true task of such a person is to save the souls of others, and not just the body. As one of the proverbs says: "What's the point in saving the clothes of a drowning man, if you need to save him himself."
Therefore, real compassion can only be fully enjoyed by highly spiritual personalities who are willing to sacrifice everything in order to give true knowledge and happiness to others. To bring other people closer to God, to give them the opportunity for spiritual progress.
It happens that a person wants to show his compassion, but as soon as his comfort zone is touched, all good intentions disappear. The conclusion in such a situation is obvious.
Video - a story from the ancient Vedic scriptures about compassion
Compassion for children and animals
Many people find it much easier to feel compassion for children and animals because their souls are pure and innocent. Unfortunately, it is impossible to help all the sick and homeless, but still a lot is in our power.
For example, you can refuse to eat meat, in this way you will show mercy and save a few innocent animals. One social organization calculated how much a person eats meat in his life: more than 1,000 chickens, a dozen pigs and cows. I became 12 years ago, thereby saving more than a hundred animals.
Compassion for other people
Many people have problems with compassion and empathy for their own kind. A projection comes to the fore, and unpleasant thoughts and arguments come into my head: “Why should I help someone, I have enough problems myself,” etc.
A fair summary of this story - a well-fed hungry does not understand.
How to Develop and Form Compassion
To begin with, I will try to explain why you need to form compassion in yourself.
Compassion makes our heart wider, and selfishness, on the contrary, narrows it.
When we have a “big” heart, then we have good relationships with others, we feel healthy and complete. And gradually our consciousness approaches God
As a result of selfishness, the heart narrows, illnesses and misfortunes come.
Our modern civilization ties a knot in the heart, for anyone if you look at all the tortured and unfortunate.
People without this quality manifest callousness and cruelty. Sincere feelings cannot enter into such a soul - neither joy nor love. When we empathize with others, our soul is cleansed and becomes more receptive to the world and spiritual knowledge.
As I have already said, it is easier to sympathize with someone else's grief when you have experienced a similar unpleasant event in your own skin.
The main key to developing compassion lies in spiritual self-improvement.
One of the barriers to compassion is self-centeredness. People are too fixated on their "I" and thoughts about their own good. At least once a day, try to practice empathy. Look at some person and ask yourself the question “What would I feel in his place?” It is best to do this during a conflict situation, thus you will complete 3 missions at once:
- get distracted from your own negative feelings;
- practice empathy;
- soften the conflict.
The difference between pity and compassion
Now I will tell you the difference between pity and true compassion. There is a significant difference between these concepts. Pity is a destructive and destructive feeling, and compassion is bright and creative. Pity is inaction, but compassion provides help. Pity comes from the mind, and compassion from the heart.
Let's analyze this statement with an example. Imagine a seriously ill person. Relatives are sitting next to him, crying and pitying him. They already doom the patient and give him an inner message that he will not be able to cope with difficulties. Thus, they drive a person into an even greater abyss of misfortune, and he drops his hands.
Compassion carries creative energy and good spirits. A person who truly manifests this quality will not be inactive, he will provide all kinds of assistance and look for the best ways out of the situation. Vibrations filled with light and love come from such people, which in themselves have a beneficial effect on others and give them the strength to overcome difficulties.