We are talking about five traumas, namely the trauma of the rejected, abandoned, humiliated, betrayal and injustice. We are all born with several traumas, but they are experienced in different ways, with different intensities.
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We are talking about five traumas, namely the trauma of the rejected, abandoned, humiliated, betrayal and injustice. We are all born with several traumas, but they are experienced in different ways, with different intensities. Injuries originated in a previous life and are present in our new life because we have not learned to heal and accept them.
So, we can conclude that, for example, the trauma of the rejected originates in a situation where a person rejects another person and does not accept himself in this situation. This experience of rejection is associated with rejection of oneself, which becomes a vicious circle: I reject myself, I reject others, and others also reject me .... All of this is to help me realize that I am denying myself. And so it is for every trauma of the soul. Trauma occurs immediately as soon as a person ceases to accept himself, just as many wounds, injuries or diseases can suddenly appear in the human body. If a person does not deal with the healing of this injury, it becomes more and more dangerous and, at the slightest touch, it will hurt more and more. Therefore, only we ourselves should personally realize the importance of healing our own soul traumas in order to create a completely different quality of our life.
All the troubles, problems, stresses that happen to us can be associated with one of the traumas of the soul. Difficulties can be mental (anxiety, fears, etc.), emotional (guilt, emotion, anger, etc.) or physical (illness, illness, accidents, etc.).
From the moment a child is conceived, traumas begin to be activated by the parents or those who have played the role of parents. So it's important to remember that we don't suffer trauma because of our parents, but rather because we needed these parents, with their own traumas, so that we could recognize our own traumas and begin the process of healing them.
As soon as one of the five traumas is active and we do not accept it, our reactions are instantaneous. It looks like someone is touching an open wound on your body, it gives you pain and you overreact to the touch. Your reaction depends on how serious your wound is. The more painful the wound, the sharper and faster your reaction. Speaking of trauma, I refer to these reactions as "mask-wearing." Why? Because we are in pain, and if we do not understand our responsibility, we blame other people for hurting us (or we blame ourselves for feeling pain), and we cease to be ourselves. To take responsibility is to feel the pain and injury and to realize that the other person did not hurt us, but that the suffering arose because we had not yet dealt with the healing of the injury.
For example, someone steps on your injured and swollen toe. Of course, you react: you are more likely to say something unpleasant, push the person away, or even hurt him yourself. Of course, this reaction is natural. But think about it: if your toe was healthy and someone stepped on your foot, you probably wouldn't have this reaction. And this means that if we react too sharply to some events or people, we cease to be ourselves. And that's why we call reactions masks. Each injury has its own mask and its own reactions.
You can read a full description of the five traumas of the soul and the masks associated with them in the book Five Traumas That Prevent You from Being Yourself. Recognizing masks and injuries is not difficult if you just look closely at the structure of your body. The more characteristics of a particular injury present in your body, the stronger that particular injury of yours.
How to heal from traumas of the soul?
The first step in healing from trauma is to accept and observe yourself when your trauma is active and you feel pain. You may feel rejected, for example, or abandoned, but not wearing an appropriate mask. At such moments, all you need to do is tell yourself that you are feeling rejected right now, and observe your thoughts, feelings, and the location of pain in the physical body. You will see how wonderfully simple self-observation works! Just watching is enough to ease the pain and make you feel much better. Your breathing becomes even and the pain goes away. This observation technique is also called acceptance.
Another step in healing from trauma is accepting that ALL people, without exception, are born with trauma. The more you give yourself permission to experience trauma, the more compassion and tolerance you will have for other people. You will not be acutely aware of the moments when other people put on masks or react emotionally. So, the more you watch yourself, the easier it will be for you to watch others, without judgment or blame.
A great effective way to heal from soul trauma is to be very mindful of your relationships with other people. As soon as you find yourself reacting to other people in pain, out of trauma, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “if I listened to my needs, what would I do now?”.
Take, for example, a woman who is tired after a day's work. She sees that her son (or husband) wants her attention. She would like to be alone and rest. However, due to the trauma of the abandoned one, she fears that if she does so, her son or husband will feel abandoned. Most likely, she will not tell anyone about her desire, and will make every effort to give due attention. If so, then her injury won, and she herself put on a mask.
Gradually, as you heal from trauma, you will become who and what you want to be: the fugitive will learn to assert himself and take his rightful place; the addict will be happy to be alone, will be able to ask for help only if necessary, and not in order to attract attention; the masochist will manifest his sensuality without guilt or shame, listening and satisfying his needs before others. The controller will remain a leader and leader, but will not seek to control and suppress everyone, using lies and manipulation; the rigid one will find his natural sensuality and give himself the right to be imperfect.
And this is only a small part of the wonderful changes that you will see in your life as you begin to heal from soul traumas. And your surroundings will also be pleasantly surprised as you begin to change before our eyes! There is only one thing left for you now: to make the decision to start healing from soul traumas right now, without waiting for other people to change instead of you. Only in this way can you get a better quality of life, and this will only happen thanks to a unique tool - acceptance that heals everything!
Dina/ 08/27/2016 The book is excellent, and there are tips and recommendations! But people with low awareness will not be able to apply anything described to her, so for them it is water! And no matter what sensible book is given to such a person, he will always say that it does not work!!!
Alexei
Alexei/ 08/11/2016 Guys, what are you talking about? What tips and tricks? Have you read the book carefully? "In order to overcome this stage faster, I advise you to do an analysis every evening of everything that happened during the day. Ask yourself which mask took over and made you react in such and such a situation, dictating you such and such behavior towards others or to yourself.Take some time to write down your observations, and especially remember to mention how you felt.In the end, forgive yourself and give yourself the right to use this mask: for at that moment you sincerely believed that it was the only remedy your protection." Isn't this advice, isn't it a recommendation? In general, the book is designed to work with the subconscious, for independent work with the unconscious state of our consciousness. And the doctor gives the pills. A good book, the main thing is given in it - the reasons that provoked this or that state of the psyche are indicated. If you realize the reason, then the brain itself will find a solution to get out of this state. Although independent work is not for everyone, some need to contact a psychologist or a psychotherapist.
Mrs_Smith/ 1.04.2016 The book is interesting and understandable in presentation. But only theory, only as information for general development! There are no practical tips, recommendations. And now, after reading, you sit and think about how to live on;)
Alesya, 28/ 01/23/2016 There are many similar books, but Burbo surprised me with an unusual mixture of powdered psychology and some kind of mystic-religion. The book will appeal to those who are engaged in self-dripping, but will not help in any way. For general development, it is worth reading, but only for people with higher education.
Olya/ 11/30/2015 An excellent book, with trepidation I recommended it to the closest people to whom I wish happiness. Written in an accessible way, everyone who reads should not stop reading - I keep a "trauma diary", which was recommended at the end of the book. It's easy and useful. Raises a lot of awareness
Karina/ 01/24/2015 I am also grateful to Mira for the advice! The psychotherapy of character is much deeper.
Fedorov Tatiana/ 04/10/2014 I express my gratitude to Mira and other commentators who recommend professional literature, which helps many times more)) Burbo is better to read to mothers and grandmothers who need simplicity and inspiration more than deep study and freedom!
To each his own!)))
Mira/ 03/12/2014 Liz Burbo summarized the material quite well, which is much more deeply considered in more serious books, for example, Johnson ("Character Therapy"), the same A. Lowen. more emotional and accommodating.
Another question is that Liz Burbo in her book, apart from diagnosing injuries, does not offer any specific solutions! The book should be called "Diagnostics", not "Healing Trauma".
While reading, I got the feeling that I was being driven around the bush, constantly hinting that injuries can be cured, but only without offering a single practical psychotherapeutic recommendation.
Again, if you are interested in working through, pay attention to the book by S. Johnson "Character Therapy", which is also in our beloved Cube :)
Anya/ 03/04/2014 I read the book in one breath, and I am simply delighted with it! So far, for me, this is the only book thanks to which I was able to understand myself. Many thanks to the author for the book and the site for the opportunity to download it without problems. I think this book is a must read.
Svetlana/ 24.02.2014 Books by Liz Burbo helped me a lot in self-knowledge. But I couldn’t solve my problems through Liz Burbo’s book and seminars, despite the fact that I began to look at life differently. And all this is very useful and interesting. After what I went through, I can say only one thing: self-knowledge will never will replace the help of a professional psychotherapist who will help you avoid excessive introspection and just start living. Although, of course, it is not a fact that working with a psychotherapist without Liz Burbo's books would have been much longer.
Irina 26/ 11/6/2013 This is the only book in my life, from the huge amount that I read on a similar topic, which really helped to understand myself and find answers to numerous questions regarding childhood, adolescence and youth, as they say. I re-read the book 3 times, and each time I discover something new both for myself, about myself and about the people around! You should have a conscious desire to hear and listen to what the author says, believe me, these are not empty words. Enjoy reading.
Dina/ 10/18/2013 For all the time of my soul-searching, all sorts of forgiveness meditations, letting go of the past and other things - nothing helped me like this book. I purchased a paper version, it seems to me that without it there is no way, and I also gave a book to my relatives. But someone just threw it away, and someone is still reading it ...
Yana/ 08/06/2013 I read the book. I will re-read it. The book is amazing. Everyone will understand how to interpret or use what is described in the book based on their level of preparation on this topic.
Leonid/ 05/24/2013 Burbo's book - for beginners. And very well helps to master the concepts of body psychotherapy.
And deliverance is the result of working with a therapist.
There is also body psychotherapy via Skype.
the guest/ 03/10/2013 to the favorites it's like
Viola/ 22.02.2013 "Natalia
I recommend it to those who are going to seriously work on themselves with a psychotherapist. save money"
Well, they laughed!!! Here, gentlemen, is an example of a person who DOES NOT KNOW a grain of what she is trying to (!) Talk about.
It is better to read, albeit simple, literature on psychotherapy than the tautology of burbo. Blah blah, I powdered the auto look to people, but mixed everything in one boiler, but didn’t say what to do. Because either he does not know (then, you need to study), or on purpose.
Natalia/ 01/20/2013 I recommend it to those who are going to seriously work on themselves with a psychotherapist. save money
Andrew/ 11/13/2012 But I didn’t like it, though I read one chapter, about a fugitive, and so it’s nonsense, I can criticize it to smithereens ...
Galina/ 01/26/2012 The book is very good because the author tries to convey very professional concepts in simple words, giving examples of course. The main thing here is self-awareness. When we realize the problem, we subconsciously know the solution too, but we resist, because we don’t want to lose what we have lived with for so many years. Good luck to everyone! Open yourself, with such books it becomes easier to do it.
Guest/ 01/12/2012 The book turned my life around. I re-read it several times, each time discovering more and more new aspects of the origin of my problems. As a result, relations with my parents, those around me, and most importantly with myself improved, I even began to lose weight suddenly without much effort, despite many years of persistent, but unsuccessful attempts to lose weight. This is a great book. Be sure to read it.
"Five traumas that prevent you from being yourself" - Liz Burbo
author Liz Burbo - "5 injuries that prevent you from being yourself" that's just this book illustrates clearly how our body and our thoughts are interconnected! Each psychological trauma leaves its mark, and only by understanding the cause, you can get rid of this trauma, and one day you will be surprised how you, your body, and the World around you have changed! All this only if you work on yourself! :))) The book will help you to love yourself))) and you can read about it in this book!
Many, probably, have come across the fact that consciously desiring one thing, and seemingly doing everything that depends on us for this, we get a result that is often far from, and sometimes the opposite of, what is desired. And why this happens, we do not understand. And the reason for this is often attitudes rooted in unpleasant, painful and repressed into the subconscious experience, and the conclusions from it.
It is known that we all come from childhood. It was then that we received both the experience that ensures our current success, and the one that creates the problems and failures of today.
I would like to invite you to familiarize yourself with a small selection from Liz Burbo's book "Five traumas that prevent us from being ourselves." Here are brief descriptions of these traumas so that you can determine what kind of negative experiences you had in childhood, and what kind of masks you currently wear or wear occasionally to protect against repetition.
This book is also useful for understanding what problems in the future we can provide for our own children, passing on to them the traumas that we inherited from our parents.
As a rule, most people have several injuries, however, the level of pain from them is not the same. If there are doubts about which injury is dominant, you should pay attention to the structural features of the body. It is for this purpose that fragments with a detailed description of the physique are given.
Some suggestions for healing these injuries are given at the end of the book.
Characteristics of injury
Trauma Characteristics of the REJECTED
Awakening trauma: from the moment of conception to one year; with a parent of the same gender. Does not feel the right to exist.
Mask: fugitive.
Parent: same gender.
Body: compressed, narrow, fragile, fragmented.
Eyes: small, with an expression of fear; impression of a mask around the eyes.
Vocabulary: "nothing" "no one" "exists" "disappear" "I'm sick of...".
Character: Detachment from the material. The pursuit of excellence. Intelligence. Transitions through stages of great love to periods of deep hatred. He does not believe in his right to exist. Sexual difficulties. He considers himself useless, worthless. Strives for privacy. Stewed. Knows how to be invisible. Finds a variety of ways to escape. It is easy to go to the astral plane. He thinks he is not understood. Can't let her inner child live in peace.
Most afraid of: panic.
Nutrition: Appetite often disappears due to the influx of emotions or fear. Eats small portions. Sugar, alcohol and drugs as escape routes. predisposition to anorexia.
Typical diseases: Skin. Diarrhea. Arrhythmia. Respiratory dysfunction. Allergies. Vomit. Fainting. Noma. Hypoglycemia. Diabetes. Depression. Suicidal tendencies. Psychoses.
This mask manifests itself physically in the form of an elusive physique, that is, a body (or body part) that seems to want to disappear. Narrow, compressed, it seems to be specially designed so that it is easier to slip away, take up less space, not be visible among others. This body does not want to take up much space, it takes the form of running away, escaping, and all its life it strives to take up as little space as possible. When one sees a person who looks like an incorporeal ghost - "skin and bones" - one can expect with a high degree of certainty that he is suffering from a deep trauma of a rejected being.
A fugitive is a person who doubts his right to exist; it even seems that it is not fully embodied. Therefore, her body gives the impression of an unfinished, incomplete, consisting of fragments poorly fitted to each other. The left side of the face, for example, may differ markedly from the right, and this can be seen with the naked eye, there is no need to check with a ruler. Remember, by the way, how many people have you seen with perfectly symmetrical sides of the body?
When I talk about an "incomplete" body, I mean those parts of the body where whole pieces seem to be missing (buttocks, chest, chin, ankles are much smaller than calves, hollows in the back, chest, abdomen, etc. ).
Seeing how such a person holds himself (shoulders are shifted forward, hands are usually pressed to the body, etc.), we say that his body is twisted. It seems that something is blocking the growth of the body or its individual parts; or as if some parts of the body differ from others in age; and some people even look like adults in a child's body.
A deformed body that evokes pity speaks eloquently of the fact that this person carries within himself the trauma of the rejected. Before being born, his soul chose this body of its own to place itself in a situation conducive to overcoming this trauma.
A characteristic feature of the fugitive is a small face and eyes. The eyes appear empty or absent, because a person with such an injury tends to go into his world or "fly to the moon" (astral) at any opportunity. Often these eyes are filled with fear. Watching the face of a fugitive, you can literally feel the mask on him, especially in front of his eyes
Characteristics of the injury of the ABANDONED
Trauma Awakening: Between one and three years of age, with a parent of the opposite sex. Lack of emotional nourishment or certain type of nourishment.
Mask: Addict.
Body: Elongated, thin, devoid of tone, sagging; the legs are weak, the back is twisted, the arms seem excessively long and hang down along the body, certain parts of the body look flabby, sagging.
Eyes: Large, sad. Attractive look.
Dictionary: "absent". "one" . "I can't stand it". "eat". "do not leave."
Personality: Victim. Tends to merge with someone or something. Needs presence, attention, support, reinforcement. Experiencing difficulties when you have to do something or decide alone. Asks for advice, but does not always follow it. Children's voice, painfully perceives failures. Sadness. Cries easily. Causes pity. Either happy or sad. Physically clings to others. Nervous. Stage star. Strives for independence. Loves sex.
Most afraid of: Loneliness.
Nutrition: Good appetite. Bulimia. Likes soft food. Eats slowly.
Typical diseases: Back pain. asthma. bronchitis. migraine. hypoglycemia. agoraphobia. diabetes. adrenal disease. myopia. hysteria. depression. rare diseases (requiring long-term attention). incurable diseases.
The mask of the addict is characterized by a lack of tone in the body. A long, thin, sagging body indicates a severe injury to the abandoned. The muscular system is underdeveloped; from the side it seems that she cannot keep the body upright, that the person needs help. The body always outwardly exactly expresses what is happening inside. The addict is sure that he is not capable of achieving anything on his own, that he absolutely needs someone's support. And his whole body expresses this need for support. In the addict, it is easy to see a child who wants to help.
The trauma of the abandoned is also betrayed by large sad eyes; they seem to be trying to get our attention. Weak legs and long arms dangling along the body give the impression of helplessness. A person does not seem to know what to do with his hands, especially when they look at him. Another feature of the addict's mask is the location of some parts of the body below normal. Sometimes the back is bent, as if the spine were unable to keep it straight. Other parts of the body also look hanging, flabby - shoulders, breasts, buttocks, cheeks, abdomen, scrotum in men, etc.
You must also learn to distinguish well between the masks of the fugitive and the addict. Look, somewhere in your environment there are two little people - a fugitive and an addict. Both can have thin wrists and ankles. The main difference is in tone. The fugitive, for all his small stature and frailty, is distinguished by good posture; the dependent looks weak, flabby, exhausted. The fugitive gives the impression that his skin is tightly stretched over his bones, but the muscular system, even if it is not developed, works reliably; the addict has more flesh, but it lacks tone.
Characteristics of the trauma of the humiliated
Trauma Awakening: Between one and three years of age, with a parent involved in the physical development of the child (usually the mother). Lack of freedom. Feelings of humiliation due to being controlled by that parent.
Mask: Masochist.
Body: Thick, rounded, low stature, thick dense neck, tension in the throat, neck, jaws and pelvis. The face is round and open.
Dictionary: "worthy" . "unworthy". "small" . "thick".
Personality: Often ashamed of himself or others, or afraid of being embarrassed. Dislikes fast walking. Knows his needs, but does not listen to them. He takes a lot on his shoulders. Uses control to avoid shame. He considers himself untidy, heartless, a pig, worse than others. tend to merge. He arranges himself so as not to be free, because "to be free" for him means "to be unrestrained." When he is unrestrained, he is afraid to cross the line of what is permitted. Loves the role of mother. Overly sensitive. Punishes himself, believing that he is punishing someone else. Strives, wants to be worthy. Often disgusted. Increased sensuality is combined with shame in sexual behavior. Does not take into account their sexual needs. Plays with food.
Most afraid of: Freedom.
Nutrition: Likes hearty, fatty foods, chocolate. Gluttonous or, conversely, eats in small portions. Ashamed to buy for himself and use "goodies".
Typical diseases: Back pain. shoulders, throat. sore throats. laryngitis. respiratory diseases. legs. feet. varicose veins. ligament sprains. fractures. liver dysfunction. thyroid gland. skin itching. hypoglycemia. diabetes. heart diseases.
Let us now turn to the physical description of the mask of the masochist. Since he considers himself low, lower than others, unscrupulous, soulless, a pig, he grows a large, fat body, which he himself is ashamed of. A fat body is not a muscular body. You can weigh twenty kilograms more than your "normal" weight and not be fat; rather, you can say about such a person that he is strong, strong. The masochist is fat due to excess fat. Its barrel-shaped body is almost the same in thickness, both in profile and in front. Another thing is a strong, muscular person: even from the back, his broad shoulders are striking - much wider than the entire torso in profile; you can’t say about this body that it is fat or fat. This applies equally to both men and women.
If only some parts of the body look thick, rounded - for example, the stomach, chest or buttocks - then this indicates a less severe trauma of humiliation. The following features also correspond to the mask of a masochist: a short waist, a thick, swollen neck, tension in the larynx, neck, jaws and pelvis. The face is usually round, the eyes are wide open and innocent, like those of a child. It is clear that the presence of all these characteristic physical signs indicates a very deep injury.
I know from experience that the trauma of the humiliated is usually harder to recognize and acknowledge than any other. I have personally worked with hundreds of masochists, especially women whose humiliation trauma was obvious. It took many of them about a year to come to terms with the fact that they were ashamed or humiliated. If you find in yourself the physical, bodily signs of a masochist, but cannot find the trauma of the humiliated, do not be surprised and give yourself time to figure it out. By the way, one of the characteristic features of a masochist is a dislike for speed, haste. It is really difficult for him to act quickly when the need arises; he becomes ashamed when he cannot act as quickly as others, such as walking. He needs to learn to give himself the right to his usual speed.
In addition, it is quite difficult for many people to recognize the mask of a masochist, since they have learned to control their weight. If you are the type of person who easily gains weight and rounds off as soon as they loosen their eating control, then it is possible that you have a humiliated trauma, but at the moment it is hidden. Rigidity, a rigidity that allows you to control yourself, will be dealt with in the sixth chapter of this book.
Characteristics of the Trauma of TREASON
Awakening trauma: Between two and four years of age, with a parent of the opposite sex. The collapse of trust or unfulfilled expectations in the love-sexual sphere. Manipulation.
Mask: Controlling.
Body: Radiates strength and power. The man's shoulders are wider than his hips. A woman's hips are wider and stronger than her shoulders. Chest wheel. Belly too.
Eyes: Staring, seductive. Eyes that everyone sees at a glance.
Dictionary: "separate(s)" . "you understand?" . "I can" . "I can handle myself." "I knew it." "trust me" . "I don't trust him."
Personality: Considers himself very responsible and strong. Strives to be special and important. Does not keep his promises and commitments or makes an effort on himself to keep them. Lies easily. Manipulator. Seducer. Has a lot of expectations. The mood is uneven. He is convinced that he is right, and seeks to convince others. Impatient. Intolerant. Understands and acts quickly. A good performer because he wants to be recognized. Circus. Hard to trust. Doesn't show vulnerability. Skeptic. Afraid to violate or withdraw from an obligation.
Most afraid of: Separation; divorce; renunciations.
Nutrition: Good appetite. Eats fast. Adds salt and spices. May not eat for a long time while busy, but then loses control in eating.
Typical diseases: Diseases of control and loss of control. agoraphobia. spasmophilia. digestive system disorders. diseases whose name ends in -it. oral herpes.
The controller creates a body for himself, which radiates strength, power and as if says: "I am responsible for everything, you can trust me." A controlling man can be recognized by his beautiful, wide - wider than the hips - shoulders. Sometimes the difference in the width of the shoulders and hips is insignificant, but, as I said in one of the previous chapters, you must trust your intuition. If the first time you look at a person you just feel the power emanating from the upper part of his body, this is a sign that betrayal does not cause him too much suffering. But if a man has broad beautiful shoulders, large biceps, a puffy chest and wears a tight T-shirt that emphasizes his muscles, then he has a very serious injury of betrayal.
In a controlling woman, this power is concentrated in the hips, buttocks and abdomen. The shape of the hips of the "jodhpurs" type indicates the trauma of betrayal in a woman. The lower part of the body in women is usually wider, more voluminous than the shoulders. If the body resembles a pear in shape, then the more pronounced the thickened part of the pear, the more serious the trauma of betrayal.
Sometimes, however, the opposite picture is observed: a man's hips and buttocks are wider than his shoulders, and a woman has a male body - broad shoulders, narrow hips and pelvis. As a result of numerous observations and tests, I came to the conclusion that their traumas of betrayal were experienced with a parent of the same sex, and not the opposite. Their Oedipus complex did not develop in the usual way with a parent of the opposite sex; they were too attached to the same-sex parent and barely knew the other parent. On the other hand, I must say that such cases are quite rare. That is why I am talking in this chapter about those whose betrayal trauma is experienced with a parent of the opposite sex. If you see that you have the opposite case, then you only need to change the gender of the parent when analyzing the trauma.
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Thanks
Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone with whom I have worked over the years and without whom my research on trauma and masks would not have been possible.
My greatest gratitude is to those who participated in the seminars "Effective Techniques of Mutual Aid". Thanks to their capacity for complete self-disclosure, the material for this book has been greatly enriched. I am especially grateful to the members of the group. "Listen to Your Body" who participated in my research and provided me with information that is very important for this book. Thanks to all of you, I do not lose my passionate interest in research and new generalizations.
Finally, I would like to thank those who were directly involved in writing books. First of all, this is my husband Jacques, who by his very presence brightened and lightened the hours spent on its pages; Monica Bourbeau-Shields, Odette Pelletier, Micheline Saint-Jacques, Nathalie Raymond, and Michel Derruder did a brilliant job of proofreading the manuscript, while Claudie Ogier and Elisa Palazzo provided the artwork for the book.
Foreword
I was able to write this book thanks to the perseverance and perseverance of many researchers, who, like me, were not forced by the objections and skepticism of critics to refuse to publish the results of their searches and reflections. Needless to say, researchers know that attacks on them and their work are inevitable, and usually prepare for it. They are inspired by those who positively perceive new discoveries, and also by the hope of helping people in their evolution. The first among the researchers to whom I must express my gratitude was the Austrian psychiatrist SIGMUND FREUD: it is to him that the grandiose discovery of the unconscious in man belongs; it was he who dared to declare that the physical nature of a human being is inseparable from his emotional and mental structure.
I am also grateful to one of his students, WILHELM REICH, who, in my opinion, became the great forerunner of metaphysics. He was the first to establish an indisputable connection between psychology and physiology, showing that neuroses affect not only the mental, but also the physical body.
Later, psychiatrists John PIERRACOS and Alexander LOWEN (both students of Wilhelm Reich) discovered bioenergy and showed that the patient's will to heal is equally important for his physical body, and for emotions, and for intellect.
Thanks primarily to the work of John Pierrakos and her colleague Eva Brook, I was able to complete everything that you will discover here. Beginning with a very interesting workshop in 1992 with Barry WALKER, a student of John Pierrakos, I have observed and examined the material now presented in this book as a synthesis of my efforts, the five traumas and their accompanying masks. In addition, all the ideas presented here have been repeatedly tested since 1992 on the experience of many thousands of people who have attended my seminars, as well as on examples from my personal life.
There is no scientific evidence for what is first said in this book, but I invite you to test my findings before dismissing them, and most importantly, to see if they help improve the quality of your life.
As you can see, in this book, as in the previous ones, I address you in you. If you are reading one of my books for the first time and are unfamiliar with the teachings "LISTEN TO YOUR BODY" , some expressions may confuse you. For example, I make a clear distinction between feeling and emotion, between intelligence and intelligence, between self-mastery and control. The meaning of these concepts and the differences between them is explained quite well in my other books, as well as in the classroom.
Everything that I write applies equally to the male and female halves of the human race (otherwise I make reservations). I still use the word GOD. Let me remind you that when I talk about GODE, I mean your HIGHER SELF, your true being, the very Self that knows your real needs, focused on a life of love, happiness, harmony, peace, health, abundance and joy.
I wish you the same pleasure in reading the book that I experienced when I shared with you my discoveries on its pages.
With love,
CHAPTER 1
The emergence of injuries and masks
Already at birth, a child knows in the very depths of his being that the meaning of his incarnation lies in working through all the many lessons that life will present him. In addition, his soul, with a very specific purpose, has already chosen a specific family and environment in which he is born. All of us who come to this planet have the same mission: to experience experiences, and experience them in such a way as to accept them and love ourselves through them.
Since sometimes experience is experienced in rejection, i.e. in condemnation, guilt, fear, regret and other forms of denial, then a person constantly attracts to himself circumstances and personalities that again and again lead him to the need to experience the same experience. And some not only experience the same experience many times during their lives, but also have to repeatedly, and sometimes several times, incarnate again in order to achieve its full acceptance.
Acceptance of experience does not mean that we prefer it or agree with him. It's more about giving ourselves the right to experiment and learn through what we experience. We must, first of all, learn to recognize what is favorable for us and what is not. The only way to this state is to be aware of the consequences of the experience. Everything we choose to do or not to do everything we do or don't do, say or don't say, and even everything we think or feel, has consequences.